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| OVERCOME AND CONTROL FEAR SIMPLE AND EASY |
fear
1. to be afraid of (something or someone)
2. to expect or worry about (something bad or unpleasant)
3. to be afraid and worried
Source:
Merriam-Webster's Learner's Dictionary
Our fear scares us
most of the time in our life. The fears within us get the unpredictable share
in the slices of obstacles in order to make us a successful person. Within the
intense and persistent fear, most of the people often lead to a constricted
life to live.
When you abruptly
called by your professor to explain and describe a sample of
something; in front of the class then some feelings make your lips quiver, your
limb tremble, your mouth too dried, that you cannot even pronounced a word.
What is this feeling fear?
Does it originated in our gene? Where does fear resides in our body? What cause
fear to appear in our system? Who causes fear in the outside situation? Could
we control fear consistently? Whoa… there were too many a questions for a four
letter word – FEAR! Let us start fear a fear to fear us… then control it!
A study has found that fear can make a threat look worse than it
really is. While certainly it doesn’t happen in every case, people who
particularly fear something, like spiders, are less likely to correctly guess
the creature’s image and perceive it to be bigger.
The
same visual miscalculation has been
found to happen with those who are afraid of heights they often
overestimate the true distance to the ground when looking over a balcony. Those
who dread small spaces or wide open areas suffer from spatial distortion;
claustrophobics tend to underestimate horizontal distances while acrophobics
exaggerate the vertical.
Most people have experienced time going
slow-mo during an emergency. This time warping is a memory-related
illusion. The more memories you have of
an event, the longer you believe it lasted. During a crisis, the amygdala
adds extra memories to the present circumstances, and since the person experiences such a rich memory
response, time appears to slow down.
Since fear is so important to survival, nature made sure the brain’s fear
center, the amygdala, has a backup. For some time, researchers knew that when damaged, another part of the brain took over its job. Tests determined that this
part is the bed nuclei. Rats with an impaired amygdala froze in the electrified
cages they’ve been taught to fear, like normal brained rats.
Fears in many ways
1.
Internal Fears – these are fear that generate from
internal and is a product of experiences from different sources.
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Fear of
dying – young generation’s fear. Particularly if someone dear to them died.
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Fear of
diseases – Parents mostly suffers this feeling, they knew it may cause of
their death.
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Fear of
wounds – everybody’s fear. Because of the pain brought by wounds.
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Fear of
height – an incident happened and someone break a bone in jumping
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Fear of
water – this person experience a drowning state.
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Fear of
someone – somebody maltreated this person.
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Fear of
committing wrong – this manner is attributed person who do not want to
become a target of bullying.
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Fear of journey
– person get this feeling in viewing a movie or TV show which had a story of
someone vanished after traveling to a place unknown to him.
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Fear of
earthquake – this type is traumatic. The victim may experience or saw a
situation with some people being tremble by an earthquake.
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Fear of
fire – a product of his or her experienced a body burned injury.
.
· Fear of someone’s
might got angry with you – the fear is the end result of parent got angry
because you ignore what they have commanded unto you.
·
Fear of
vampire - somebody still believe to vampire and passed the story to their
children
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Fear in
superstition - People still believed to superstition / fallacy
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Fear to
love – parent marriage condition is the root cause. A broken home
HOW FEAR WORKS
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Fear
prepares us to react to danger. Once we sense a potential danger, our body
releases hormones that slow or shut down functions not needed for survival (such
as our digestive system) and sharpen functions that might help us survive (such
as eyesight). Our heart rate increases, and blood flows to muscles so we can
run faster. Our body also increases the flow of hormones to an area of the
brain known as the amygdala to help us focus on the presenting danger and store
it in our memory.
EFFECT ON THINKING
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Once the
fear pathways are ramp up, the brain short circuits more rational processing
paths and reacts immediately to signals from the amygdala. When in this
overactive state, the brain perceives events as negative and remembers them
that way.
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It also
stores all the details surrounding the danger—the sights, sounds, odors, time
of day, weather, and so forth. These memories tend to be very durable, although
they may also be fragmented.
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Later,
the sights, sounds, and other contextual details of the event can become
stimuli themselves and trigger fear. They may bring back the memory of the
fearful event, or they may cause us to feel afraid without consciously knowing
why. Because these cues were associated with previous danger, the brain may see
them as a predictor of threat. This often happens with posttraumatic stress
disorder (P.S.T.D.). Example, a soldier who
experienced a bombing on a foggy day might find himself panicking when the
weather turns foggy—without knowing why.
IMPACT OF CHRONIC FEAR
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Living under constant
threat weakens our immune system and can cause cardiovascular
damage, gastrointestinal problems such as
ulcers and irritable bowel syndrome, and decreased fertility. Fear can impair formation of
long term memories and cause damage to certain parts of the brain, such as the
hippocampus. This can make it even more difficult to regulate fear and can
leave a person anxious most of the time. To someone in chronic fear, the world
looks scary and their memories confirm that.
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Moreover, fear can
interrupt processes in our brains that allow us to regulate emotions, read
nonverbal cues and other information presented to us, reflect before acting,
and act ethically. This impacts our thinking and decision making in negative
ways, leaving us susceptible to intense emotions and impulsive reactions. All
of these effects can leave us unable to act appropriately. Other consequences
of long term fear include fatigue, clinical depression, accelerated ageing, and even premature death.
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So whether threats to
our security are real or perceived, they impact our mental and physical well
being.
LOCATION OF FEAR
Amygdala
The
idea that the Amygdala is the home of fear in the brain is just that—an idea.
It is not a scientific finding but instead a conclusion based on an
interpretation of a finding. So what is the finding, what is the
interpretation, and how did the interpretation come about?
The Finding:
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When the Amygdala is damaged, previously threatening stimuli come to be
treated as benign. The classic discovery was that monkeys with amygdala
damage were “tamed;”
snakes, for example, no longer elicited so called Fight flight responses after
amygdala damage. Later studies in rats by me, and others, mapped out the
amygdala’s role in a neural. system that detects and responds to threats, and similar
circuits were
found to be operative when the human brain processes threats.
The Interpretation:
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Since damage to the amygdala eliminates behavioral responses to
threats, feelings of "fear" are products of the amygdala. People
are indeed less responsive to threats when the amygdala is damaged (in humans amygdala
damage can occur
as a result of epilepsy or other medical conditions or their surgical
treatment). Yet, these people can still experience (feel) “fear.” In
other words, the amygdala is an important part of the circuit that allows the brain to detect
and respond to threats but is not necessary to feel “fear.”
How did the interpretation come about?
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Brain imaging studies of healthy humans (people
without brain damage) suggest something similar. When they are exposed to threats,
neural activity in the amygdala increases and body responses (like sweating or
increased heart rate) result. This is true even if the threatening stimuli are
presented subliminally, such that the person is not consciously aware that the
threat is present and does not consciously experience (feel) “fear.” Amygdala
activity does not mean that fear is experienced.
The
conclusion
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That the amygdala is the brain’s fear center
wrongly assumes that the feelings of “fear” and the responses elicited by threats
are products of the same brain system. While amygdala circuits are directly
responsible for behavioral/physiological responses elicited by threats, they
are not directly responsible for feelings of “fear.”
Aspect of Fear and
the effect on us
KNOWLEDGE
Having a lower level of
education, particularly having only a high school diploma/GED or less, was one of the contributor of fear. People with lower levels of education
exhibit significantly higher levels of fear regarding:
- Personal safety
- Their future (running
out of money, getting sick, etc)
- Internet usage (identity
theft, being stalked, etc)
- Criminal victimization
- Phobias (heights,
clowns, blood, etc)
- Government (Gov care,
gun control, etc)
- Immigration
(immigrants cause crime, bring disease, etc)
- Natural Disasters
(asteroid, volcanoes, earthquakes, etc)
- Man-made disasters
(wars, terrorist attacks, etc)
ENTERTAINMENT TV
Watching television talk
shows with frequency proved to be strongly related to fear. It is a simple,
straight-line effect – the more one watches talk TV, the more fearful one tends
to be. Given the nature of our survey we cannot say with certainty whether
people turn to talk TV because they are afraid or whether people have become
afraid from watching talk TV, but the association is clear and powerful.
- Personal safety
- Their future (running
out of money, getting sick, etc)
- Internet usage
(identity theft, being stalked, etc)
- Criminal victimization
- Phobias (heights,
clowns, blood, etc)
- Natural Disasters
(asteroid, volcanoes, earthquakes, etc)
- Man-made disasters
(wars, terrorist attacks, etc)
REAL LIFE TV
Television has become
inundated with true crime television shows, ranging from popular prime-time
programs to entire networks devoted to programming about crime and criminals.
The more one watches true crime TV, the higher the levels of fear of:
- The future (running
out of money, getting sick, etc)
- Internet usage
(identity theft, being stalked, etc)
- Criminal victimization
- Fears about today’s
youth
- Phobias (heights,
clowns, blood, etc)
- Natural Disasters
(asteroid, volcanoes, earthquakes, etc)
- Man-made disasters
(wars, terrorist attacks, etc)
Additional Fear Factors
The following list rounds
out our top ten personal characteristics that tend to be associated with
holding many fears.
Personal Characteristic
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Higher Levels of Fear about
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Disabled as work status
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Criminal victimization,
pollution, natural disasters, man-made disasters
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“Other” race/ethnic groups
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Internet usage, phobias,
natural disasters, man-made disasters
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Females
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Personal safety, criminal
victimization, phobias
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Republicans
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Fears about today’s youth, the
government & immigrants
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Democrats
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Personal safety, pollution
& man-made disasters
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Religion (except Jewish)
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Fears about today’s youth, the
government & man-made disasters
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Watching TV (in general)
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Fears about one’s future,
phobias & man-made disasters
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Retired as work status
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Personal safety, fears about
one’s future, phobias
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Outside Issue about Fear
Outside
fears or other kind of fear is a fear that comes in spiritual aspect. These are
the fears that God put it in our heart. Remember it is located in our heart,
not in our brain.
The Holy
Bible actually talks two different kinds of fear. The spirit of fear” or Internal
Fear may be harmful to us; But the fear to God is a beneficial one in every
ways and walks of life.
This
fear is much to explain as a “respect” to someone you dear to. Some who cares
and believe you, in your deeds, in your words and physical outlook. So in
return you too cares and believe Him.
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Getting
through fear is a skill that anyone can learn. FACE WHATEVER IT FEARS YOU AND LEARN FROM IT.
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Know that
everyone experiences fear at some points in their lives. Children, though,
are particularly likely to have fears. Adults might see children fears as
silly, but they are very real to the children.
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All
persons have fears! IT IS A PART OF YOUR SYSTEM and is common among us and
can be seen as a good thing. You
need to learn that there are things to
be afraid of, such as traffic on busy streets or hot stoves. Too much fear and
too little fear are both problems. A person with too much fear may be afraid to
participate in normal activities. A person with too little fear may take too
many chances and get hurt. You may notice that you have more fears than others.
People are born with different temperaments and personalities. This means that
some us are timid, shy and fearful. Other are carefree and brave.
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Many
types of fears are normal. People move through different types of fears as
they grow. For example, many young children will show fear of strangers and
fear of the dark. Most children grow out of these fears. These fears exist
because children know a little bit about something but not enough about it to
deal with it realistically. Children may be frightened of TV shows. But
eventually they will learn what is real and what is not real. Each age group faces
its own set of age-related fears. Usually, there is no need to worry about
them. Although outgrowing age-related fears takes time, there are things you
can do to help other people to overcome fears.
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Some
fears are unique. They may come from the child experiences. Fears could develop
because your child knows someone who is afraid. For example, if an older sibling
panics whenever
there is a spider in the house, other children may learn to fear spiders. Other
fears could develop because of experiences such as a hospitalization or illness.
Stressful experiences such as divorce or natural disasters often result in fears. Your
child may need extra help to work through fears that result from specific
experiences.
1) Accept
and respect that you have fears.
First, you
need to learn skills to deal with fears. These skills will help you for the
rest of your life.
Let say: do
not look abruptly when you heard some unusual noise or sound. Just move left or
right a little as if where the noise comes from. Be sound alert, control your
nervousness.
2) Spend
extra time with yourself when you seem to be afraid.
During storms
or at bedtime might be times when you need special attention.
Combined with fears of the dark, other fears look larger.
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Bedtime routines like reading a love story book or an adventure or
the best book – HOLY BIBLE will be a good help.
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A song from a radio is best, but select the love song
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3) Establish a predictable routine.
This
makes you feel secure. It helps you to know what you can expect at a time.
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Like locking the door every time you sleep.
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Stay on the light until the morning.
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Setting the alarm clock in your preferred time
to rise up.
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The good thing if you were just alone in your
room is to let a radio sound till the morning.
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Arrange all the things in your room properly,
this will ease your eyesight
4) Talk about feeling scared.
It is
important for you to learn to talk to other about all of your feelings, including
fear. When you feel scared tell yourself “do I have to be scared?” This
question will let your mind answers the reason of why you are afraid of. Reason
out with yourself, look firmly at the things you were afraid of, then give a
reason for yourself, and you will answer it vehemently. Talk about how your fear
makes you feel in your body. This would help you connect physical feelings with
your emotions. Tell your experiences to somebody as a laugh story and what you
do to feel better. Then with this story, they too will share their “afraid of”
story. You and your friends will learn and share each experience.
5) Make a habit that you visually or physically hold what you
feared.
It
might help to use dolls, puppets, stories, and art to habit talking about what
you were being afraid. Before, I am afraid to a dead person even just looking
on it. But when my mama died I hold her in her hand tightly, then my fear break
out. If you were afraid of dolls, hold them tight in that manner you will feel
the presence that it is nothing, it is just a doll and nothing happens.
6) Recognize courageous moves.
Be a habit that in whatever things you were
afraid of you look and analyze the thing, be it physical or emotional one. If
you can grasp it, HOLD IT TIGHT TO FEEL WHAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF. If
pictures of bombs and shooting
scare you, limit time watching TV and
the news. If you scared of the dark,
TURN ON THE LIGHT, BE SUGGESTIVE IN A POSITIVE MANNER. Asking YOURSELF what will help YOU teaches YOU fear
problem-solving skills.
7) Scary dreams and
nightmares
Scary
dreams or nightmares usually occur in the early morning. These dreams usually
have something to do with your life. Person who have had very bad experiences
often have scary dreams. When he wakes up, he usually remembers the nightmare. He
may be very scared because of it. It is hard for a you to fall asleep after a
scary dream.
Then
if that will be the case, you ought to rise up and go to the bathroom wash your
face, then pee. Go and get something to eat. Read a book, listen to a favorite
song, and sleep again.
Overcoming Fear
The
following is a positive attitude towards fear
1. Be a good responsive,
and act habitually positive to your fear
2. Recognize, be specific and analytical to what
you fear
3. Be of Interest in controlling your fear
4. Accept and free your emotions
about fear
7. Work on whatever types of fear it is
9. Whenever
you feel fear; switch it over to what
you are grateful for instead
10. Jot down your fear, analyze and create a solution
11. Talk your fears to other to gain
more method in controlling them
12. Rehabilitate your heart and choose someone who resonates with you
14. Fear to failure can be cure by clear
about what you want and what’s stopping
you.
15. Watching
a movie or a documentary can be as enlightening as reading a book
16. Eating the healthy food you like can have a dramatic impact on how you feel
17. Look
back at the challenges and fears in your life and learned from it
18. Get
in touch with someone who experience the same fear and share the method
19. Breath
can set you free. It can fasten of who you are and overcome pervasive fears
20. Ask and your
feelings are there to tell you something, ask what the purpose of fear
21. Three times a week Exercises
22. Understand and realize
that failure is not the end of the world then you become free
Considering
that you can now control fear, it can be called a skills that is unique to a
person like you. These skills can benefit you:
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A bright morning and future
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You can go to any height and
distances all over the world
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You can talk to anybody confidently
Insects and other unusual animals can now delight you
Insects and other unusual animals can now delight you
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You can be sure of whatever you are
doing
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Off and on the lights does not
matter to you
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Any real life situation can not
bother you
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And most of all you now not afraid
to look the one you love and sing…
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Your just too good to be true
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Can’t take my eyes on you
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You’ll be like heaven to touch
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I want to hold you so much
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As long as love has arrived
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And I thank GOD I’m alive …
Well
maybe you look so happy now. But will you believe that those fear you encounter
is only the very foundation of FEAR?
Yes
there is a greater fear ahead that one cannot stay away from it! It is unavoidable…
It
is truly spiritual…
Read:
THE
GREATEST FEAR
OF ALL
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| GREATEST FEAR OF ALL FEARS |
Good luck.
Lastly, I want
to thank
God for He gave me You…
Reading for good:
https://blogs.chapman.edu/wilkinson/2014/10/21/fearfactorswhyarepeopleafraid/
